You can imagine going out to a beautiful place and scattering your loved ones. While this can be a beautiful, ceremonial and a very healing way to return a loved one to nature, it can also be a disaster. The following guidelines will make the experience positive and make your lover's final wish, "I just want my ashes to spread".
To begin, the word "ash" is often used to describe cremated remains. Media portrays it as a light box. The reality is that the remains are bone fragments that have been reduced mechanically. They do not normally flow gently into the air. It's more like heavy sand. As I said, it is a little dust or ash that can blow in the wind, so when you spread cremated remains you have to make sure the wind is controlled so that they do not blow back into people's faces or on a boat.
You will also want to consider the legal requirements to distribute the remaining. In no state is it legal to distribute residues on private property without the permission of the property owner. Many parks also have rules and permit requirements so you want to check out the requirements.
If you plan to spread the leftovers, many choose to keep some of the leftovers in a memory container or miniurn. Some people feel that they still want a part of the person and sharing the cremated remains is a way to still have a part of the person with you. Remember that you want to make sure the partial remains are in a sealed plastic bag inside the keepsake or mini-urn. A funeral director can handle this for you. Many products are also available, such as diamonds made from scraps, jewelery designed to hold scraps or hand-blown glass paper weights.
Casting is a way of spreading where the remains are thrown in the wind. As I mentioned earlier, you want to check the direction of the wind and throw the leftover headwinds. Most of the remains will fall to the ground and some of the lighter particles will blow in the wind and form a white-gray cloud. One person in the group can throw away the leftovers or spread some and hand over the container to the next person so everyone has a chance to ceremoniously restore the leftovers. Another alternative is that people get paper cups or cast cups and they simultaneously throw in a kind of roasting gesture.
Excavation digs a hole or ditch in the ground or sand and the remains are placed in the ditch. The residues can be placed directly in the trench or placed in a biodegradable bag or urn. At the end of the ceremony, survivors often rattle over the ditch. A dead name can be drawn in dirt or sand - perhaps inside a heart. The remains can also be placed in this name and heart. You might consider taking a photo of this for a memory book. If done on the beach, it may be time for the tide to come in and wash it ceremoniously to the sea. Family and friends may want to merge and form a circle. If not too windy, light can also form a circle around the site. The candles are then given to each person as a keepsake.
Raking involves pouring the cremated remains from an urn evenly onto loose soil and then shaking them in the ground at the end of the ceremony. It is important to keep the urn close to the ground when pouring out the remains due to wind. The survivors may want to turn around and shake the remains back to earth. If you choose to do this in a sprawling garden in a cemetery, this is how they will perform the spread.
This is done either in a "Green Cemetery" or in a traditional cemetery. Often cemeteries can allow you to place a biodegradable bag or biodegradable urn on top of a grave or family member as long as it is buried. You obviously want to check with the cemetery and see what their requirements are.
Water dispersal means that the residues are placed in a body of water. A biodegradable bag or urn is recommended. This is usually when cremated remains can blow back into a person's face or be washed up on the side of the boat. Both experiences can be traumatic and not the eternal peaceful memory you imagined. If you search the internet or the phone book you can find people who have boats and are experienced. There are urns on the market that are designed to gently float away and then rapidly biodegradable in the water. Many people throw rose petals or flowers into the water for uranium. If the remains are in a biodegradable bag, they can sink so you might also want to throw a flower wreath in the water and see the wreath disappear.
Air distribution is best performed by professional pilots and air services. The aircraft are specially designed to handle the cremated remains. Some professionals will arrange for family and friends to be on the ground and watch as the plane flies over and a plume of debris can be seen from the ground. If survivors are not present, the service will provide the specific time and date of the antenna spread. Often it can be arranged that close family and friends fly with.
While spreading cremated remains can be emotionally very difficult, hopefully knowing your options and being informed will make a difficult time a little easier.